one for the guys.

After careful consideration... I've decided that the male population may deserve more credit than we (the females) often give them. For starters, we call them obtuse, oblivious, inconsiderate, stupid, annoying, lazy, useless, and about half a million other things. I don't think that we are completely wrong in our judgment, but no doubt, we are too critical and harsh.

I suppose the only way to write this critically without speaking for all women would be to write from my perspective. I think the main difference between men and women is the attitude with which we judge things. From what I've observed, guys tend to take things in stride, while I know I really do not. I analyze things as they are individually, and not overall. For example, Kevin gave up a night of gaming in favor of cuddling and watching movies. As cheesy as I may sound, I was thrilled, internally going "awwww" at the fact that someone would give up their fun time to spend with me. And then on another day, he spends a measly 30 minutes chilling and playing some killing game, and I go bahhhh. <--- is very unreasonable. Granted, I wasn't too bothered by it, but there was a brief feeling of frustration. I think somewhere in that time, I rationalized that his games are like my books. I read, but that is a one person deal, and so he would be put on the back burner.

Later on, when I was on my way back to Boston, I sat on the bus thinking about the weekend. I realized how much he did for me - getting up early, planning dinner, taking me out, putting my interests first, etc. - and that overall, the whole weekend was for us, not him. In a whole weekend, he took 30 minutes and I had a twitchy eye moment. So yes, I think that I am unreasonable.

I am writing this to be fair to the guys. They deserve lots and lots of props for the things they do right. Yet, most of the time, girls only notice the bad because it intrudes on their fairytale ending (I am no longer writing from just my perspective seeing as how I don't believe in fairytales). Guys have to deal with moody women with perfectionist expectations of everything.

Reverting back to myself, I am quick and timely, while Kevin is very laid-back. I know this one applies to more than just me for a fact because my roommate and I talked about how her boyfriend responds with ,"I don't know," to everything. For the most part, they do get things done, but not in the timely fashion that we expect them to, since they often cut it too close for comfort.

Anyways, my point is that these men that we grow to love (sometimes), have redeeming qualities - caring, intuitive, smart, sneaky (the good way), cheesy (the good way), loving, considerate, proactive - and should be recognized for it once in a while. Of course both their good and bad qualities are present. And although I don't think I say it enough, I think they exemplify a significantly greater amount of those good qualities than the bad. But the bad are the only ones mentioned in our effort to make guys better. Besides, patting them on the back for what they do right everytime would be overkill. They're already cocky creatures as it is. :)

Sunggle bear. Cuddle bug.